The Loyalist
Committed, security-oriented, and responsible. Seeks safety and is prepared for potential problems.
Understanding Type 6
Type Sixes are reliable, hard-working, and responsible, but can also be defensive, evasive, and anxious—running on stress while complaining about it. They can be cautious and indecisive, but also reactive, defiant, and rebellious. They typically have problems with self-doubt and suspicion.
At their best, Sixes are internally stable and self-reliant, courageously championing themselves and others. They are able to trust their own mind and their own guidance, moving forward with confidence despite uncertainty. When healthy, they are loyal, committed, and cooperative, bringing people together and building lasting, supportive relationships.
Sixes are constantly scanning for potential threats and problems, which helps them prepare and protect themselves and others. This vigilance can manifest as either phobic (anxious and seeking reassurance) or counterphobic (confronting fears directly, sometimes recklessly). They struggle with trusting their own judgment and often seek guidance and support from external authorities or systems.
The Six's journey involves learning to trust themselves and developing faith in their own inner guidance. When they can quiet their anxious mind and access their own wisdom, they discover that they are more capable than they believed. They learn that security comes from within, not from external guarantees or authorities.
Core Motivation
To have security, to feel supported by others, to have certitude and reassurance, to test the attitudes of others toward them, to fight against anxiety and insecurity.
At Their Best
Internally stable, self-reliant, and courageous. Trust their own minds and guidance. Cooperative and committed, they champion others and build strong communities. Face challenges with courage and conviction.
At Their Worst
Become paranoid and panicky, feeling persecuted and trapped. May lash out irrationally or become self-defeating and self-destructive. Can succumb to severe anxiety, depression, and potentially seek to escape through substance abuse or other destructive behaviors.
Key Strengths
Common Challenges
Growth Opportunities
Develop trust in self and own abilities
Take calculated risks with confidence
Quiet anxious thoughts through mindfulness
Practice making decisions independently
Focus on positive outcomes, not just threats
Distinguish between real and imagined dangers
Related: Your Wings
Type Dynamics & Relationships
Stress Point
Moves here when stressed
Growth Point
Moves here when secure
In Relationships
Sixes are loyal, committed partners who value security and trust in relationships. They are supportive and reliable, often putting their partner's needs alongside their own. However, they may struggle with trust issues and seek constant reassurance. Can test their partner's loyalty or become suspicious of their motives. May oscillate between dependence and defiance. Growth involves trusting their partner and the relationship, communicating anxieties directly, and recognizing that absolute certainty is impossible but love can still be real.
Communication Style
Questioning, thorough, and sometimes skeptical. Sixes communicate with attention to detail and potential problems. They may ask many questions to clarify and ensure understanding. Can be indirect when anxious or defensive when feeling challenged. May seek reassurance through communication or test others' trustworthiness. Growth involves expressing concerns directly, balancing skepticism with trust, and believing their own perceptions.
Decision Making
Cautious and deliberative. Sixes thoroughly analyze options, considering potential risks and outcomes. They often seek input from trusted others before deciding. May struggle with decision paralysis or second-guess their choices. Can oscillate between options or procrastinate when anxious. Benefit from setting decision deadlines, trusting their own judgment, and accepting that no decision comes with absolute certainty.
Conflict Style
Sixes' conflict style varies between phobic and counterphobic responses. Some avoid conflict, seeking to maintain security and harmony. Others confront it directly, sometimes aggressively, as a way of testing or asserting themselves. May become defensive or reactive when feeling blamed or attacked. Can project their fears onto others in conflict. Growth involves staying centered during disagreements, distinguishing between real threats and anxious projections, and addressing issues with calm courage.