The Peacemaker
Easy-going, agreeable, and complacent. Aims for harmony and avoids conflict.
Understanding Type 9
Type Nines are accepting, trusting, and stable. They are usually creative, optimistic, and supportive, but can also be too willing to go along with others to keep the peace. They want everything to go smoothly and be without conflict, but they can also tend to be complacent, simplifying problems and minimizing anything upsetting. They typically have problems with inertia and stubbornness.
At their best, Nines are indomitable and all-embracing, able to bring people together and heal conflicts. They are genuinely peaceful, having achieved inner stability and harmony. When healthy, they are present, engaged, and decisive, bringing their considerable strength and wisdom to bear on the world around them.
Nines have an extraordinary ability to see all sides of a situation and to create harmony where there is discord. They are accepting, patient listeners who make others feel heard and valued. However, their aversion to conflict can lead them to merge with others' agendas while neglecting their own priorities. They may numb out through routine activities, procrastination, or passive resistance.
The Nine's journey involves learning that their presence and priorities matter. When they can assert themselves and engage with life fully, they discover that they are powerful agents of change. They learn that true peace requires addressing conflicts, not avoiding them, and that their voice deserves to be heard.
Core Motivation
To create harmony in their environment, to avoid conflicts and tension, to preserve things as they are, to resist whatever would upset or disturb them.
At Their Best
Indomitable, all-embracing, and able to bring people together. Genuinely peaceful with inner stability. Present, engaged, and decisive. Use their strength and wisdom to heal conflicts and create lasting harmony.
At Their Worst
Become severely disengaged and neglectful. May dissociate from reality, becoming depressed and ineffectual. Can develop debilitating anxieties or completely shut down, potentially becoming catatonic.
Key Strengths
Common Challenges
Growth Opportunities
Assert own needs and preferences
Engage with conflicts directly and constructively
Take decisive action on priorities
Develop personal interests and passions
Recognize that your presence matters
Express anger and frustration appropriately
Related: Your Wings
Type Dynamics & Relationships
Stress Point
Moves here when stressed
Growth Point
Moves here when secure
In Relationships
Nines are supportive, accepting partners who create peaceful, harmonious relationships. They are patient listeners who make their partners feel valued and understood. However, they may merge with their partner's preferences while losing touch with their own. Can avoid addressing relationship problems, hoping they'll resolve themselves. May become passive-aggressive when their needs aren't met. Growth involves asserting their own needs and preferences, addressing conflicts directly, and recognizing that their desires are equally important in the relationship.
Communication Style
Diplomatic, accommodating, and often indirect. Nines communicate in ways that maintain harmony and avoid conflict. They are excellent listeners who make others feel heard. May struggle to express their own opinions, especially if they differ from others. Can be vague or noncommittal when anxious about disagreement. Growth involves expressing their true thoughts and feelings directly, being willing to disagree, and recognizing that honest communication strengthens relationships.
Decision Making
Collaborative and consensus-seeking. Nines make decisions by considering everyone's needs and trying to find solutions that maintain harmony. They may struggle with decisiveness, especially when choices might upset others or create conflict. Can procrastinate on decisions or defer to others' preferences. Benefit from recognizing their own priorities, setting decision deadlines, and understanding that making choices doesn't mean creating division.
Conflict Style
Nines avoid conflict whenever possible, preferring to maintain peace and harmony. When conflict arises, they may minimize issues, change the subject, or physically remove themselves. Can become stubborn or passive-aggressive rather than addressing problems directly. May agree superficially while resisting internally. Growth involves recognizing that addressing conflicts directly leads to deeper peace, expressing disagreements constructively, and understanding that their voice deserves to be heard in disagreements.